Where did my life go?
I just wrapped up another weekend of wedding planning. I remember when I had a life. I miss that.
Actually, the 'rents came for a visit with a wedding agenda. From dress fittings to cake tasting (more on that later this week) to flower girl dresses, we got quite a bit accomplished. And that's important since the wedding is just a little more than four months away (yikes!).
But I miss being able to have a conversation with my parents that doesn't involve weddings. The problem is, I don't have much else to talk about these days.
It's not that I'm spending every waking moment planning my wedding. I don't. I manage to hang out with friends, see movies and go running. But it's always there. Like a little rain cloud over my head. And I can only escape it little bits at a time and then it comes storming all over me again, reminding me of all the details I have left to figure out.
Even the most tame bride-to-be usually reaches a point in the planning when her brain is so full of wedding details that everything else disappears. It kind of makes you wonder what a bridezilla's brain must look like.
And what I hate most is that other people must think I'm nuts. I hide it well from my friends and coworkers, I think. I may mention having done a few wedding-related things that week, but I do not bore them with the constant dialogue in my head which asks things like "Do I really want pocketfold invitations? And why do I feel the need to design them myself? I wonder how much all that postage is going to cost?"
But I can't help it. And I blame society. Why so much emphasis on this being the biggest event of your life? Sure, it is important, but what happened to a reception of just cake and punch? Maybe the new trend in weddings should be "less is more." Anyone else willing to support that?
Comments
Remember, it's your choice to eat, sleep and breathe only wedding details. So, the blame lies within yourself, not with "society."
Posted by: Amy | June 5, 2007 08:10 PM
I completely understand... try pulling it together in 3 months! Once he popped the question, we thought "why wait", so I had 15 weeks to plan the entire thing. Have to say that it really is about keeping the focus on what is important, what the day is about and refusing to buy into the racket that society has turned the whole wedding thing into. We chose to keep it simple and small - no favors, no guest book, no huge to-do - just focus on having a lovely, elegant event at which we commit our lives to one another and oh yeah, serve some food and wine. I must admit that the 6 year old's voice who resides in us all kept saying "but it's my wedding day..." in a pitiful whine. I managed to silence her long enough to think about what truly mattered. And still get a kick ass dress.
Posted by: Ruth | June 18, 2007 01:23 PM