By the time Glen and Melissa Andrianov met, they were both exhausted from the stress of online dating. “The entire process, says Melissa, “was inefficient and frustrating. It's very time-consuming and a lot of hard work.” While their own dating experience was “smooth sailing,” Melissa says “getting to that point was the real challenge.” Thinking back on their mutual frustration, the couple, now married, set out to revolutionize online dating. Their site, Onlyadate.com is meant to streamline the process as well as address privacy concerns. Our Town spoke with Melissa and Glen about their hopes for Onlyadate.com.
Our Town What issues did you encounter with online dating?
Glen and Melissa Andrianov The worst part was coming home from work only to spend hours and hours browsing hundreds of profiles, looking at pictures, sending messages, waiting for replies, wondering if you’ll ever hear back, finally getting a response, texting to arrange a date, struggling to find a mutually agreeable time and place to meet… and the list goes on. I think I can honestly say, everyone online is looking for an easier way to find a date.
OT Your frustration with dating sites drove you to create your own. Ironic?
G&MA Absolutely! As a husband and wife team, our goal was to create a better way to find love online. We wanted to re-create the mold for our friends as well as generations to come. It's tough not only to meet someone to go out with, but even more difficult to find someone that you are compatible with and whose company you truly enjoy.
OT How is OnlyADate.com different from other sites?
G&MA We have revolutionized online dating by eliminating online communication between members, maintaining profile confidentiality (so your information isn’t perpetually posted for the world to see) and streamlining the date scheduling process. Literally, you can only do two things on the site - show interest in an existing date or create a new date at a Chicago location. There are no profiles to browse because they are all private unless that member has chosen to make their profile public along with their proposed date. And there are no messages to fret over, because the only "contact" between members is offline on a real date. Basically, OnlyADate.com reduces the time online spent online to meet someone offline from 10 hours to merely 10 minutes, ideal for busy singles.
OT The site eliminates online communication between members, but isn’t communication the point?
G&MA The point is to meet in person. It’s hard to measure compatibility from just sending “winks” or messages back and forth online. Having to wade through countless profiles and unsolicited messages online as well as bully your self-esteem wondering endlessly why the people you messaged didn't write back can be really disheartening and discouraging. For that reason, and many more, our goal is to get you offline as efficiently as possible.
OT How does the site uniquely address privacy concerns?
G&MA We provide better privacy features compared to any other dating website nationally and we’re proud of this! Women who join Match.com for example will usually get blasted with 50+ emails from strangers all over the country. On OnlyADate.com, a woman can browse existing dates while being totally invisible on the site, maintaining a private profile without having any information exposed. The only way a woman's presence becomes known on the site is to either create a date - to which other members can apply, or confidentially show interest in a date to which only the member hosting the date can see her private profile.
OT How do you guarantee that all profiles on the site are active?
G&MA Compared to Match.com or Eharmony.com where fewer than 10% of profiles are active, 100% of visible profiles on OnlyADate.com are active in that they are directly linked to a proposed date. Additionally, as a person who has hosted a date, you can rest assured that the person who "shows interest" in your date is an active member in that they took the initiative to expose their profile to you with hopes of meeting in person on your proposed date. If a person is “inactive” on our website, they are simply invisible.
OT What does this mean for your members?
G&MA No more wasted time and energy browsing inactive profiles. Instead, you will only see profiles of individuals that have already committed themselves to a specific time and place. Not to mention, there is no way to hide behind your profile on the site, people put up real pictures knowing that they can’t exchange messages for months and months, rather, they are forced to meet before any online communication happens. This helps guarantee that our members are truly who they say.
OT What are your future goals for the site?
G&MA Since launching in April 2013, we have grown to over 1,000 members in Chicago who are actively looking to find that “someone special.” We are extremely excited about our success so far and look forward to expanding to all major US cities within the next year!
A writer with an MFA in Creative Writing from The School of the Art Institute of Chicago, Sarah Terez Rosenblum freelances for sites like Pop Matters and
afterellen.com Her debut novel, “Herself When She’s Missing," was called “poetic and heartrending” by ALA Booklist. Sarah is also a figure model, Spinning instructor and teacher at Chicago’s StoryStudio. Inevitably one day she will find herself lecturing naked on a spinning bike. She's kind of looking forward to it actually.
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