Oprah Winfrey is tackling domestic violence head on again this week -- airing a second show Thursday dedicated to the topic that's dominated headlines since an incident between singers Chris Brown and Rihanna last month.
Winfrey warned Rihanna and women everywhere in a show last week with Tyra Banks that if a man hits you once, he'll hit you again.
Tomorrow, Winfrey will talk to men who've hit women in the past and also interview Robin Givens, ex-wife of boxer Mike Tyson. Givens has spoken out before about her abusive past with Tyson.
"When you grew up in an environment where there is abuse, it's more acceptable to you," Winfrey said last week. "If you go back with a man who hits you it's because you don't think you're worthy of being with a man who won't."
As a victim of domestic violence, I can first hand corroborate that the statement "if a man hits you once, he'll hit you again" it's absolutely true. As women we tend to be of more forgiving nature and because our capacity of loving someone seems to over cloud our common sense sometimes, we tend to forgive our abuser and give them a second chance with the hope that they would chance. From experience I can say that not only do they NOT change, but the abuse gets worse. In my case it went from the verbal abuse to the shove, to the hit to finally being beaten up in the presence of my 5 year old child. I know I could have put a stop to this abuse years ago, but I hoped time, patience and understanding would change my abuser but that was not the case. Now I have to live with the guilt and pain of my son re-living that experience and being in constant fear of what my abuser would do next and when. What is worse is that in most cases our abusers always portray a totally different person in front of friends and family members and turn things around to where everyone actually believes the victim is the one with the problem (my experience). They fabricate lies which everyone believes, leaving the victim to pretty much fence for herself. I found the following link while looking for assistance (http://www.mysistershouse.org/domestic_violence/profile.html). Sometimes the abuser can be someone who is in the public eye or on his way there (http://www.myspace.com/christopherfinnesse)which makes the whole domestic violence incident seem more non-believable. Regardless of the situation, we have to learn how to say enough is enough and put an end to the violence before more people end up getting hurt and/or suffering.
As a victim of domestic violence, I can first hand corroborate that the statement "if a man hits you once, he'll hit you again" it's absolutely true. As women we tend to be of more forgiving nature and because our capacity of loving someone seems to over cloud our common sense sometimes, we tend to forgive our abuser and give them a second chance with the hope that they would chance. From experience I can say that not only do they NOT change, but the abuse gets worse. In my case it went from the verbal abuse to the shove, to the hit to finally being beaten up in the presence of my 5 year old child. I know I could have put a stop to this abuse years ago, but I hoped time, patience and understanding would change my abuser but that was not the case. Now I have to live with the guilt and pain of my son re-living that experience and being in constant fear of what my abuser would do next and when. What is worse is that in most cases our abusers always portray a totally different person in front of friends and family members and turn things around to where everyone actually believes the victim is the one with the problem (my experience). They fabricate lies which everyone believes, leaving the victim to pretty much fence for herself. I found the following link while looking for assistance (http://www.mysistershouse.org/domestic_violence/profile.html). Sometimes the abuser can be someone who is in the public eye or on his way there (http://www.myspace.com/christopherfinnesse)which makes the whole domestic violence incident seem more non-believable. Regardless of the situation, we have to learn how to say enough is enough and put an end to the violence before more people end up getting hurt and/or suffering.
Oprah has waded into many conversations which are of public interest and occassionally does some good, on balance she's a good entertainer, But I disagree, with her unrelentless attack on young and old Black Males, which she done throughout her career, and is the reason she has made Billions, dinigrating and portraying Black Men, as wife beaters, criminals, and sexual perverts. She as far as I know an unmarried woman with no children, and she by her own admission has an eating disorder, It would be a public service if she do what The Physician' St luke" Admonished, "Physician Heal Thyself" Your tongue has become a wrecking Ball"in my community.